The word “toxic” gets thrown around a lot these daysbut what does it really mean?
And further, what actuallycountsas a toxic trait?
To answer these questions and more, we got the lowdown from relationship experts.
Here’s how to spot toxic traits in relationships, and in yourself.
“There’s a difference betweenbeingtoxic andactingtoxic.
15 examples of toxic traits:
They’re abusive, physically or emotionally.
First, the obvious: Any form of abuse is definitely toxic.
They’re manipulative.
Manipulationencompasses a number of different behaviorsall of which are toxic, and some could even be considered abusive.
They’re judgmental.
Who among us wants to be constantly criticized or judged?
They’re generally unkind.
They’re dishonest.
From secret-keeping to lying, dishonesty is a toxic trait, according to Campbell.
They lack empathy.
They don’t respect boundaries.
They’re a “fair-weather friend.”
This is atype of friendwho doesn’t genuinely have your best interests at heart.
They’re overly competitive.
They can’t be serious.
It’s emotional immaturity, Campbell notes, because they cannot handle any questioning of their own image.
They see people as problems to be solved.
According to Neo, another example of a toxic trait is constantly trying to “fix” people.
They play the victim.
Playing the victim is a super-common toxic trait, according to Campbell.
(Here’s ourfull guide to victim complexes.)
They’re dogmatic.
“They’re looking down their nose at your truth.
They just obliterate it with their moral superiority.
They refuse to grow.
Sometimes we outgrow people, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
The ups and downs of the relationship are cyclical.
The more you check your own behavior, the more you could change it.
While you could take the high road of tolerance and forgiveness, is it really worth it?
But what about when they hurt you?
In cases when youhaveto be around this person, Campbell is a big proponent of thegrey rock method.
Eventually, your toxic co-worker will likely pick a new target.
FAQ:
What are the most common toxic traits?
How do I stop my toxic traits?
Seeksupport from a mental health professionalto help you get to the root of your toxic traits.
Can a toxic person change?
Just know that you do not stick around while they do that work.
