However, being good at sex isn’t always aboutmaking someone come harder(or faster).
So, read on for how to intensify passion with your partner:
Communication is everything.
But doing this won’t bring you closer.
Being a better lover is about getting out of the habit ofassumingeach other’s preferences and vulnerablystatingwhat you need.
“Sexual communication is the foundation of a healthy and fulfilling sex life.
This is a simple, yet effective, way to increase sexual pleasure.”
Appreciate them as a person.
It also helps reinforce the emotional bond.
Outside of gratitude, look for the good in your partner too.
What do you find sexy about them?
What do you like about their sense of humor?
What makes you excited about them?
How do they turn you on?
Be specific; then tell them those things.
Cultivate care into the connection.
You don’t have to be in love with them to show you care about them and their experience.
Bydeepening intimacybeyond physicality, it helps your partner feel closer to you.
Understand your own sexual anatomy.
“It’s not just your partner’s job to turn you on.
“Teach your partners how to love you better.
Don’t expect them to read your mind.
Embrace the awkwardness that will inevitably come up.
But that doesn’t always happen, especially when you’re learning how to be intimate together.
It’s likelier it’ll be a mess of elbows and knees.
By leaning into the honesty of the moment, it shows that you’re comfortable with yourself.
This helps your person feel safer about being themselves and expressing their emotions as it comes up too.
Keep play at the forefront.
“Being playful at sex means not taking yourself too seriously,” Laeta says.
“Don’t be afraid to be silly, experimental, or spontaneous.
There is no ‘right’ way, onlyyourway.”
Try something different.
In the beginning, sex is amped up as you relish in the novelty.
Over time, the excitement diffuses and mellows out as you settle into a routine.
But there are actions you’re able to do to reintroduce thrill back into the mix.
Use thoughtful touch.
The physical chemistry wasthatgood.
The best touch for arousal is a contrasting touch between lighter, gentle strokes and firmer, stronger holds.
see to it not to use repetitive touch.
you’re free to use your lover’s body as a canvas to draw on.”
Become present through meditation.
Bring out your senses by comfortably setting the scene.
Herzog agrees incorporating the other five senses can round out sex and advises taking it one step further.
Put in some time to prepare an inviting environment that enables you to lose yourself in intimacy even more.
My go-to recommendation for clients islistening to erotic storiestogether as part of their sexual dance.”
On that note, she says it’s hard to be sexy when the room is chaotic and unappealing.
Practice open-minded flexibility.
It is the act of being open to things changing.
Think the evolution of our sexual preferences," Herzog explains.
She notes by not being hyper-focused on the “shoulds” of sex can transform your sexual life.
“Being flexible is one of the top predictors of sexual fulfillment for couples over time.”
Integrate sex accessories.
Prioritizing pleasure-centered experiences.
Although orgasms are great, Herzog explains not everyone values or experiences them normatively either.
“You have a whole body to work with.
Slow down to enjoy sex as a whole.
Edgingis an orgasm control practice where you delay climaxing.
By keying into the tension in the arousal, it makes everything feel more intense for both of you.
Finish with aftercare.
After sex, you’re flooded with feel-good chemicals that connect you to your partner.
Keep the positive energy going by engaging inaftercare.
Show them that their feelings matter by asking them how they like to be taken care of after sex.
It’ll look different for each person.
The bottom line.
Doing this will help withemotional and physical intimacy.
