Parent-child relationships are often fraught with dramaparticularly in the teenage years.
But for some, like those raised by narcissistic parents, the implications can be more serious and lasting.
15 signs you were raised by narcissists.
This could lead to a controlling ortoxic relationship, especially if people find themselves constantlydating narcissists.
You may demonstrate narcissistic behaviors yourself.
“Meaning, they behave in ways that are very entitled, controlling, and demanding.”
You sacrifice your own sense of self.
Some adults grow up but remain stuck in the role they had to take on as children.
“They continue to be extremely self-sacrificing in their relationships.
Your inner critic is loud.
“A narcissistic parent is often judgmental and critical,” Spinelli says.
“This attaches to one’s own internal messaging.”
Thisinner criticmay manifest itself as perfectionism and lead to self-doubt and lack of confidence.
You develop an avoidant-attachment style.
You people-like and have trouble setting boundaries.
People who grew up with narcissistic parents might feel the need to accommodate others to an extreme in adulthood.
Generally, this occurs at times they should beupholding boundaries.
“Or you were made to feel guilty by the narcissistic parent.”
You struggle to identify your emotions.
“Coping with a narcissistic parent often creates the need to dissociate for self-preservation,” Spinelli tells mbg.
Behary recommends educating yourself on narcissism and its effects.
“The more we get it, the more we can heal,” she says.
Get professional support.
Seek help from a licensed therapist or counselor to work through the trauma.
A therapist who specializes in narcissism can also help with the first tip, Spinelli says.
Professionals can help you recognize your triggers, provide tools to work through them, and set healthy boundaries.
Set healthy boundaries.
Grieve the loss.
It can be helpful to grieve the parents you had hoped for.
How to break the cycle when you become a parent.
But children require healthy limitations.
