Breakups of any kind devastate the heart.
If you are going through heartbreak, know it gets easier with time.
But there is no sure time frame forhow long it takes to get over a breakup.
For some people, it might take a few months, while for others it could be years.
People heal and grieve in their own way, in their own time.
So dont compare yourself to others.
The best thing you might do for yourself is take care of you.
Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to get over heartbreak.
Avoid contact for 60 to 90 days.
Thisno-contact rulewill give you time to put things into perspective and focus on you and your own needs.
It also provides the distance necessary to sever the bond between you, in a real way.
Dont romanticize the past.
It can be easy to replay those good memories on repeatespecially if you didnt want the relationship to end.
But for a healthier perspective, you really need to make the effort to see the whole picture.
Fall in love with your life.
Now is the perfect time to get back to you.
What have you always wanted to do?
What hobbies can you get back into?
Take time to show up for yourself andfall in love with your life.
Thats how you become the person youve always wanted to be and when you become irresistible to others.
But you dont have to believe that what someone did is OK to forgive them.
Thepoint of forgivenessis that it frees you from the emotional burden of anger.
Release your bitterness, anger, and hurt by forgiving them and yourself.
Focus on what you want.
Dont keep rehashing the bad moments.
And dont focus on what isnt working.
But words have power.
When we focus on what we dont want, we keep getting what we dont want.
(Here are somecharacteristics of a healthy relationshipto set your sights on.)
Speak kindly to yourself.
Your inner critic will use the breakup as a chance to have a go at bring you down.
Dont let that little voice distract you.
Instead of fighting yourself, start to fight for yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
Dont badmouth your ex.
Focus on sharing things you love.
Talk about the things in your life that are working well, your dreams and desires.
You never know what will happen in the future, so its always better to sow seeds of kindness.
Avoid social media stalking.
It might be wise to just remove your ex from your social media feed.
Facebooks take a break feature lets you avoid seeing their pictures, etc., without unfriending them.
It just breeds speculation and suspicion and keeps you stuck in the past.
You did the best you could with what you knew at the time.
Be kind to yourself and stop overanalyzing and replaying every detail, thought, and conversation gone awry.
It is what it is, and it happened the way it was supposed to happen.
There is a process to your lifea beautiful, graceful unfolding of possibilities and potential.
Relationships are part of our purposeto love and be loved.
Some loves are not meant to last a lifetime.
Be thankful for the experience.
Every experience helps you grow into the person youre meant to be.
Don’t close your heart.
Dont retreat from the world.
Dont let the pain take over.
Believe in yourself and love.
It will be there waiting for you when youre ready.
confirm you take care of you.
Focus on your health and what makes your body feel good.
Spend time in nature.
(Here’s more onhow to get over a breakupthe healthy way.)
We live in a beautiful world.
Care for it, protect it, play with it.
The only dreams that will come true are the ones you pursue.
