What is intimate sex?
Intimate sex is any sexual encounter involving a lot of intimacy between the partners involved.
The key connecting factor is trust, security, and openness.
Importantly, intimate sex isn’t exclusive to long-term, monogamous lovers.
(Here’s more oncultivating intimacy in a new relationship.)
Tips for more intimate sex:
Treat sex as an art, not a science.
“We have to change the way we think about sex.
Touch each other more.
take a stab at incorporatemore touch outside the bedroom, Prem recommends.
“Especially now, we are more touch-deprived than ever.
Don’t just touch when you want to have sex.
Touch throughout the day.
Touch while talking or sitting and watching a movie.
It can be a light touch as you laugh at something, or pinkie fingers touching.
It can even be holding hands or hugging while watching TV or a movie or while walking.”
When you touch your lover frequently, you become more attuned to reading their body and their reactions.
Which touches cause them to melt?
Which ones are ticklish?
Masturbate together.
“Mutual masturbation can be a great way to enhance connection with a partner.
It takes a pretty high level of vulnerability to share oneself with another in that way.
With this confidence, they can feel empowered and therefore more comfortable, which can onlyincrease your sexual connection.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Dow recommends that partners “mix things up by adding in a bit of space.
Experiment with anal play.
Dow recommends anal sex as a good way to promote intimacy.
That process can deepen intimacy for people in unexpected waysattuning partners together in a vulnerable and delicate way.”
(If you’re looking to explore anal, then the second essential after communication is lube.
Try tantric sex.
Anyone interested in intimate sex can benefit from incorporating basic tantric principles and techniques into their sexual repertoire.
Talk about what you want and don’t want.
Part of intimate sex is being able to have conversations about the sex you’re having.
That is to say, there are no easy cheats when it comes to cultivating intimacy.
Get into exploration mode together.
“Think of ways it’s possible for you to explore some new pleasure territory.
Invite your sense of wonder into the room.
“It can be helpful to imagine how you interact with new lovers,” Dow says.
“Early in relationships, we tend to be more curious and experimental.
We try out different types of touch and remain more curious about how they feel to our partners.”
“Eye gazing can promote feelings of safety and attunement,” Brito says.
She recommends incorporating it into a seated straddle position.
Have your partner lean against you, using lube to rub against your genitals.
Pause to notice texture, temperature, and pressure, and share what you notice with each other.”
Supporting your partner as they explore their body can feel extremely intimate.
“Being in yab yum allows you to connect theheart chakras.
The other breathing that you could do is breathing together in and out at the same pace.
