The key is beingcommunicativeand proactive.
Now start doing them again.
What happens when we make this assumption?
Expectations are set, and just as quickly, they get deflated.
Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection.
Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything fromemotionaltosexualwants.
Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you.
You just have to do it.
We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?”
How was yours?"
If your initial “How was your day?”
doesn’t spark much conversation, try asking morecreative follow-up questions: “What made you smile today?”
or “What was the most challenging part of your day?”
Without an intentional appointment to do a temperature check, unmet needs and resentments can build.
Think about this in the broadest form.
Do you find it sexy if they help with the housework?
Do you find it “unsexy” when they use the restroom with the door wide-open?
Talk about what it specifically means to “keep it sexy” in your relationship.
Be amazed, be humored, and be inspired.
On a budget and can’t go big?
Can’t afford a sitter?
Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids.
Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.”
so that closure can be achieved.
Leading from this place can create confusion anddefensiveness, and it can ultimately distract from the real issue.
Tension will dissipate, and from here, solutions can spring.
Seek tounderstand, not agree
Easy in concept, difficult in tool.
From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blowout or lingering frustration.
Even if you don’t agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.
Accept that your partner feels hurt.
From this place,a real apologycan have a significant impact.
