Is your ex sending youmixed messages?
Or perhaps their behavior just seems off?
Do exes really pretend to be over someone?
After all,ending a relationshipisn’t necessarily easy, and it still takes time to bounce back.
Signs to look out for:
They’re giving mixed signals.
If there aremixed signals, Page says that means there is not completion.
They blame you for the breakup.
In most cases, breakups aren’t only one person’s fault, despite that being easy to believe.
They’re angry with you.
They’re keeping in touch with you.
Is your ex persistently reaching out, asking for help, or just generally trying to maintain contact?
According to Page, this is a good indicator that they’re not over you.
(Here’swhen to reach out to an ex and when to avoid it, FYI.)
They flirt with you.
Flirting should count as a major sign.
Are they complimenting you orflirting with youthe way they used to?
Page says this is a likely sign their feelings are still there, and they are not over you.
They’re bringing up memories.
You still have some of their things.
Do you still have some of their things?
They’re sabotaging you.
A truly wounded ex may go so far as to sabotage any new potential relationships you have.
Their social media presence is noticeably different.
As you date someone, you get a sense of their social media presence (or lack thereof).
They haven’t “publicly” acknowledged the breakup.
If your ex still has your pictures up, they may be struggling to let go.
They venture to make you jealous.
If you don’t see your ex regularly, this will often come through on social media.
They’re acting super happy.
And of course, are they acting like life has never been better?
What to do about it.
And this greatly depends on whatyouwant, as well.
Ask yourself what you need, and be open and honest with them.
“Ask them any question you have.
That’s a really important thing for people to know.
In a breakup you have a right to ask yourself,What do I need for resolution?”
How to move on.
After that, there’s virtually always inner work to be done to get to fully move on.
(Check out our full guide onhow to know whether you should get back together.)
The bottom line.
At the end of the day, no one can read minds.
Even if your ex is pretending to be over you, you don’t necessarily know the exact motivation.
