And in a long-term partnership, it’s likely to occur at one point or another.
It’s important to start the dialogue, which brings us to our next point.
Start the conversation sensitively.
No toxic positivity allowed.
“Don’t say things like ‘Be positive!’
or ‘You have so much to be grateful for!'”
“This usually leads to them feeling shamed and misunderstood.”
Resist the urge to give (unsolicited) advice.
No one wants that, especially when they’re already likely feeling down about themselves.
Don’t give ultimatums or threaten to leave.
Getting through a rough patch in a relationship isn’t always easybut neither is dealing with poor mental health.
Get clear on how they’d like to be supported.
Everyone is different, including how they’ll handle their difficultiesand accept support.
Get clear on what they need from you.
It might simply be presence and quiet time or a daily walk you take together.
Validate them.
Foster empathy.
On top of validating their struggles, don’t shy away from empathizing.
Really feel what they tell you, and allow yourself to open up to their emotions.
“Empathy shows them you understandor at least are trying to understandand it validates them,” Bruneau says.
Get vulnerable.
Sometimes it can behard to open up about mental health struggles, particularly with those closest to us.
If your partner is resisting getting vulnerable, you could model it for them.
Make plans for something enjoyable.
Know your limits.
And lastly, it’s important to know where the line falls between partner and therapist.
Once you start approaching bluer skies ahead, the two of you willfeel stronger than ever.
