Well, that was me.
And everything was going according to planuntil I got dumped.
Thatheartbreakcut raw and deep.
It also put me back in the dating arena.
But this time, thanks to a hefty load of personal work, it was different.
My last relationship (once I moved past the pain) was full of beautiful learning opportunities.
Here are 11 dating insights I wish I’d learned a long time ago:
1.
You should be having fun.
Dating is supposed to be fun!
You’re meeting new people, having new experiences, doing new things.
If you go into a date with that expectation, your outcome will dramatically change.
The more fun the actual date experience is, the more fun you and your date will have.
People bond over interactive new experiences.
And even if you don’t, at least it was fun.
Expectations make it hard to have fun.
When we have expectations, we’re not living in the moment.
And when we’re not living in the moment, it’s hard to really enjoy another’s company.
This very grounded, centered approach to living is attractive.
You’re not freaking out about the future; you’re living in the moment and you’re confident.
When you’re here you know that if it’s meant to work out, it will.
Your truth always matters.
Feel like something is off?
Are you ready to take it to the next level and see if your date is too?
How much you like them matters as much as how much they like you.
become the dominant thought, especially when you really like the other person.
And once you relax, be yourself, and give the process time, you’ll find out.
Are you not okay with less than 24 hours' notice to go on a date?
Is sex before exclusive commitment a big no for you?
Is friend and/or solo time (removed from your partner) key for your personal growth?
And remember, you’re still just getting to know the other person.
Plus, boundaries foster respect.
And that’s sexy.
You’re going to date a lot.
Finding “your person” can take some timeand a good number of dates.
Know that there’s nothing wrong with you.
It’s a process.
Get to know someone new, and their story.
Ultimately, dating is a process that’ll help you not only learn more about others but alsoabout yourself.
What you don’t.
And eventually, when you meet your match, your past experiences will help you be a better partner.
7. you might’t take anything personally.
Move on to the next.
That person has officially done the work for you and weeded themselves out of your dating world.
Send them love and compassion, thank them for the dating experience, and move on.
Remember, there are a gazillionreasons why something like that could’ve happened.
Don’t attempt to read their minds and don’t take it personally.
We all have our own stuff and they might be working through theirs.
And if you really want to know what happened, ask from a place of compassion and honesty.
You’ve got nothing to lose.
Without sex, everything is much less complicated.
Sex opens a whole new can of worms.
You attract what you’re putting out there.
Weattractothers who are on the same vibration.
It may also be time for some inner work.
If you find yourself here, that’s beautiful.
We can’t change anything we’re not aware of.
And you’re aware.
Be open to meeting someone wherever.
And most importantly, invest time in your passion.
Join a hiking club.
Are you a yoga fiend?
Ask your yogi friends if they have friends, go on a retreat, take a training.
Sign up for a dancing class.
And healthy, happy humans with wide-open hearts are downright attractive.
They get asked out more.
The “right one” will always be there.
Above all else, know that your “person” will always be there, no matter what.
