What is sex supposed to look like in a long-term relationship?
Chances are, if you’re asking the question, yourlong-term relationshipsex life is probably encountering some issues.
Another study3found good sex can even offset the negative effects ofcommunication problemsin relationships.
These might include:
It’s normal to not feel like having sexin a relationship.
It’s not something to judge yourself or your partner over.
Lower sexual desire can sometimes be related to larger relationship issues.
Good sex usually means a happier relationship, but the reverse is also true.
Focus on having a good relationship, and many times good sex will naturally follow.
But for other people, sexual desire only comes along after physical arousal has kicked in.
This is known asresponsive desire.
People with responsive desire feel like having sex only once they’re physically aroused.
What exactly does that mean?
(Bad orgasmsare a thing.)
Of course, don’t just put sex on the calendar and show up naked when the time comes.
That’s no fun.
Sex should be about exploring together and helping each other feel good.
So don’t fall into the trap of believing sexual desire will automatically fade as your relationship goes on.
Desire and sex don’t need to decrease in long-term relationships.
Plenty of people in long-term relationships have super-hot, wonderfully satisfying sex lives years and years into their relationships.
