From there, its often a downward spiral to breakup or divorce.
for a marriage to thrive.
Marriage doesn’t complete you.
In other words, one plus one doesn’t make one or even two; it makes three.
You are responsible for your own aliveness and wholeness, and your partner is responsible for his or hers.
You won’t always feel attracted to your partner.
Even if we know this intellectually, when lack of attraction hits in marriage most people panic.
That simply is not reality.
Knowing this can alleviate much needless anxiety so that you dont fall down the rabbit hole of Whats wrong?
You won’t always like your partner.
His jokes will drive you crazy.
Her laugh sounds like fingernails on a chalkboard.
Thats simply the way it is when you spend that much time withone human being.
Being in love is a stage of relationship that doesn’t last forever.
The romantic model says: You meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after.
We skip over an essential stage: falling out of love.
This is something rarely talked about in the mainstream.
And if you didn’t have an infatuation stage, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed!
Love can grow with time and effort.
We also grow up believing that youre either in love or out of love; theres nothing in between.
and that what you have in the beginning is all youll ever have.
The truth is that real love grows over time.
You don’t have to feel love to give it.
Then we balk against advice that says, Fake it til you make it.
Sex is a sacred act of giving and receiving.
Healthy sex is none of those things.
Marriage is a crucible designed to help you grow.
Marriage isn’t “happily ever after.”
It isn’t the end of the road, the resting spot for eternal happiness.
Marriage is one of the most challenging and rewarding paths we can commit to as human beings.
Your first blueprint for intimate partnership informs how you approach your marriage.
Its not easy work, but just because its work doesnt mean youre with the wrong person.
Life with young children is stressful.
