Is it possible that you have been a target?
A bully is actually an insecure, paranoid, control-freak.
Here are ten clear signs that youre being bullied:
1.
You and your peers are treated according to inconsistent standards.
Others in your work group are receiving preferential treatment (e.g.
flextime, cherry projects, travel perks and so on).
Meanwhile, you find that most all of your requests along the same lines are denied without plausible explanation.
Goals on a project are suddenly changed, and your progress is disregarded.
Say youve been given a directive with certain objectives, an ultimate goal and a timeline.
Your progress is not celebrated or applied to the new project, but not even taken into account.
Every decision you make is questioned, even the small ones.
In essence, you’re constantly bombarded by excessive micromanaging.
You’re socially alienated without a valid explanation.
All of the sudden, youre excluded from meetings you once attended.
Reasons may be given, but are not warranted or easy to tether to concrete events or behaviors.
Co-workers tend to avoid you and keep interaction to a minimum.
You also may find that youre no longer invited to after hour informal events.
You’ve experienced verbal abuse.
Youre subject to negative, abusive language sworn and shouted at on a fairly consistent basis.
That said, verbal abuse can be more subtle than overtly aggressive insults and reprimands.
You often feel ganged up on.
It doesnt matter whether youre right or not the gang mentality is determined to prove you wrong.
Your health is deteriorating.
Mentally, youre drained and your energy is zapped.
Youre sleeping more and find it hard to get out of bed.
Bullying can lead to depression, anxiety, panic attacks and mood swings.
In extreme cases, the effects of bullying can also lead to heart attacks and strokes.
You and your work are publicly diminished.
Others consistently criticize your work unfairly.
It seems that in the eyes of your boss, you cant do anything right.
Theres no effort to provide guidance, mentoring or encouragement.
You’re presented unreasonable obstacles at every turn.
