Do you sometimes feel insecure and uncomfortable in your own body?
Many of us do.
If you’ve been feeling insecure and out of sorts lately, know that you’re not alone.
And know that there are strategies that you’re free to use to come back to yourself.
You love to like others.
When youre not rooted in your own worth, you go out of the way to make others happy.
A lack of inner love translates into a need for constant approval and appreciation by others.
Start to become aware of this behavior.
The first step to ending the people-pleasing game is to acknowledge that you’re playing it.
You have a difficult time saying no.
Not only do you want others to be happy, but you also want to be agreeable.
Practice saying no to small, inconsequential things.
Practice saying no to requests from acquaintances and work colleagues.
Work your way up to saying no to people you love and care about.
You dont believe youre enough.
You are sensitive to criticism and your feelings are hurt quickly.
Once you recognize these thoughts, it’s possible for you to substitute negative messages with more positive ones.
Work on healing your heart and building up your self-worth.
Find activities that help you feel good about yourself.
You compare yourself to others every chance you get.
You immediately feel the urge to compare yourself to others.
Remove yourself from situations where you feel like youre comparing yourself to those around you.
This may meanspending less time on social mediaand unfollowing people who make you feel worse about yourself.
Spend less time with people who intentionally or subconsciously make you feel less than.
You dont believe you’re able to do anything right.
You focus on your mistakes, faults, and inadequacies.
You imagine the worst-case scenario in every situation and expect that youll screw it up.
Reflect on all of your wins, both big and small.
Acknowledge that youve succeeded far more often than youve failed.
You’re self-conscious of your body.
If its about you, ask yourself what is causing the self-hatred.
Past thoughts, experiences, or negativity?
Remember that your body is yours, and nobody else’s.
You feel ashamed of yourself.
You are embarrassed often and frequently want to hide yourself or fade to the background of social situations.
Create an image in your mind of your most empowered, positive self.
Ask yourself what its going to take to get to that place.
Take action to embrace your vulnerabilities, let go of your negative feelings, and affirm your worth.
Employ all the tools available to youfrom mindfulness and journaling to exercise and therapyto help you embrace your self-worth.
You dont believe people like you.
Your default thought is that others dont care for you.
Dont make these assumptions based on your skewed view of the world.
If your default assumption is that people dont like you, explore it.
Look at the actions of others objectively and have a go at understand their intentions without bias.
Spend more time with people who care for you and cut ties with people who dont.
Youre drawn to others who dont love themselves.
You choose relationships where your partner is also self-sabotaging and takes their pain out on you.
If youre drawn to relationships like this, become aware of thepattern of attractionto partners who are self-sabotaging.
Know that if someone cant love themselves, they’re not going to be able to love you.
You treat others poorly.
Read uplifting books and surround yourself with encouraging people.
Treat yourself the way you would treat someone you care about.
Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep.
Once you treat yourself with love, respect, and kindness, youll start treating others the same way.
