Fear can be sneaky, and it shows up in all kinds of disguises.
You find yourself striving in vain for an impossible-to-achieve standard of perfection.
You settle for less than your dreams.
When fear runs the show, you forget how to dream.
You compromise in the name of being “realistic.”
But settling isn’t realism; it’s a devastating symptom of fear.
You say yes when you mean no.
But when fear is no longer running the show, you say no when it feels self-loving.
As they say, “No” is a complete sentence.
This doesn’t mean you won’t devote yourself to generosity and service.
It means the service stems from a genuine love-based (rather than a fear-based) motivation.
You say no when you mean yes.
When you’re afraid, you’re unlikely to take risks.
You numb yourself with food, alcohol, technology, or excessive busyness.
Fear causes inner pain, which we desperately give a shot to numb with substances and behaviors.
But these only put a temporary Band-Aid on the pain and ultimately decrease our self-esteem in the long run.
When you face fear head-on, motivation replaces procrastination.
You’re not “going for it” based on a fear-based need to “make it happen.”
Instead, the natural inclination toward love and service generates inspired action.
You struggle to make decisions.
Or quit that soul-sucking job.
Or set boundaries with your mother.
But you’re terrified of the uncertainty.
When you don’t know what the future holds, anything could happen.
You are a control freak.
When we are afraid, we feel the need to micromanage everything.
When fear is running the show, you’ll avoid speaking up for what you believe.
You won’t let your voice be heard when your integrity is being threatened.
You won’t tell people when they hurt your feelings.
You’ll be too afraid to ask for what you really want.
When you let love lead, you start respecting and appreciating the divine voice that flows through you.
As a result, you’ll attract those who resonate with your truth andfind your soul community.
Fear isn’t just an uncomfortable emotion that holds you back from following your dreams.
So, how do you move past fear?
Here are a few ways you’re free to change your relationship with fear right now.
Focus on what you appreciate.
Let yourself experience that memory of love and connectedness.
Watch fear dissolve in the moment.
Question your beliefs.
Every time you have a fearful thought, question it.
What’s true about that thought?
What’s not true about that thought?
This starts to loosen fear’s hold on you right away.
Trust the universe.
When you believe it’s a hostile universe, life is scary.
Find your soul tribe.
It’s really hard to make this kind of radical transformation alone!
Find other spiritually inclined, courageous beings who are making brave choices to be their most authentic selves.
And limit your exposure to people who let fear run their lives (without judging them).
